December Update: 2018

Look who’s growing!

We are headed to CHOP for the 6-month follow-up visit with the research team in January. It has been six months since we started Baricitinib and we will have PT, OT, and neuropsych tests done to measure changes in Will since starting the medication. Will has made slight progress in his movements, but mostly we notice that he is happier. He still cannot sit, roll over, or accurately reach for toys consistently. He is non-verbal and cannot communicate his needs with us.


We have ramped up the physical therapy sessions and asking for two sessions/week whenever we can get on their schedule. We had a follow-up visit with our neurologist in Maine, and he didn’t realize that we were not doing speech therapy yet. We have tried to find a speech therapist but haven’t been unable to find a practice in Maine that can treat Will. We have heard, ‘we don’t have what we need at this practice to provide therapy.’ Early Intervention therapy (for children under 3 years) in some states provide therapies in the home, but Maine does not. Maine’s Early Intervention program has adopted a “coaching model” but does not provide direct care to children…this has been a huge source of frustration for myself and many other families.

Our neurologist called a practice in Portland that provides augmentative speech therapy evaluations for children and asked the provider to see Will. Typically children 3 years and older start this type of speech (assisted and augmentative) therapy in a developmental preschool setting. In the meantime, Will needs therapy to work on the building blocks of communication. It has been 21 months since we started Early Intervention here in Maine and we are finally getting plugged into a practice that can appropriately evaluate Will’s communication needs.  It would be ideal for Will to get some of his intensive therapies at the same place. Ideally, I’d like to find two therapies in the same building (OT and Speech). We may have to drive 45 minutes for combined therapies, I’m waiting to learn more about the practices in Southern Maine.

Will enjoys when we take his hands and explore with him. At a restaurant, he likes when I grab a crayon and color while bringing his hands along for the activity. He cannot grasp an object by himself anymore; the neurological insult robbed motor planning from him. He likes when we fill the dump truck with colorful items and then dump them on the floor. He also likes it when I put a snack in his hand and help him reach his mouth. The delight he exudes when he takes a bite catches us both by surprise. For Christmas, Will is going to get fat crayons and a sketchbook!

He is thriving!

Will is close to losing his Failure to Thrive diagnosis. He lost weight during his 10 months of not feeling well, battling neurological flare-ups, etc. I kept saying, ‘when he feels better, he will eat.’ Well, we are making progress because he feels better. Someone said, ‘what are you going to do if someone reports you to DHHS because you won’t allow them to surgically insert a feeding tube?’ Well, here we are: gaining and thriving!


We haven’t done any traveling other than hospital visits over the past year. I miss my family; it isn’t like me to go long periods without a trip to Pennsylvania. Airline ticket prices are obscene, and it’s prohibitive to fly the kids to see my parents. Worse, is worrying that they have overbooked a flight leaving a family like ours scrambling at an airport. Hopefully, we can make a trip happen next summer, even if we have to drive. Speaking of driving, Will allows me to drive him about 25 minutes without crying now. I can go to the grocery store, drive to Falmouth for appointments, and even pick up the kids at school.


Many of our friends helped during the time when I was mostly homebound with Will. Our friends would bake us treats, bring lasagna and mac n’ cheese, and Will’s favorite food with crackers: guacamole! Our village never ceases to amaze me. Even our mailman goes out of his way to help make life a little easier for us, he always asks ‘How’s Will?’ Will has shown me the value of slowing down and checking in with people, being more present.

Our extended family: Scott, RN
We have been blessed with the most amazing registered nurse. When I work, Will is cared for by Scott. Scott has been a nurse for 33 years. He has been a NICU nurse, a Nurse Director, Associate Director of Pediatric Surgery and Anesthesia, Divisional Director of Nursing Services…worn so many hats. He also works per diem at the state prison in Maine. This guy is a sweet as he is intelligent and after a breaking in period, Will gave into the idea of being cared for by someone other than Justin and I. They have become great buddies. It’s such a relief to know that Will is in good hands and happy while I’m gone for my shifts.

Thank you for following along. We are grateful for the friends and family who embrace our journey with us and continually add support along the way.


3 Replies to “December Update: 2018”

  1. So very interested in yours and Will’s progress…only wish therapies were more atenable for you. Your steadfast insistence and patience in his eating paid off. We Will!
    Don’t worry a lot about getting to PA….the weather has been yucky and maybe your loved ones can travel to you in Maine! We used to travel to Amy’s n family when they lived in Hampton….was there at Eastern Maine for birthday of their 3 children. CJ, her oldest started college this year and wants to be a doctor.
    So we wish you and Justin and family a very merry Christmas and a wonderful year ahead!!
    I read your update to Bill as he is also interested and cares very much! Love, Jo Ann

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